Beauty and The Beast: The Predictable Murder of Yeardley Love By George Huguely
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Charlottesville, VA- At approximately 9 PM the evening of May 2nd, George Huguely, V left a golf outing he drank at all day, visibly intoxicated according to fellow attendees. It was the beginning of the end of a rancorous binge drinking track record for the prodigal son of George and Marta (Sanson Murphy) Huguely.
It was the gruesome end for star athlete Yeardley Reynolds Love.
Yeardley said ITS OVER to the heir of Huguely’s family’s century old lumber business and spent the last weeks of her life in fear George would make good on his threats.
Sources inside the circle of Love and her family have stated that the most recent threats and public observation of the couple occurred at Huguely’s former frat, Delta Kappa Epsilon.
Following this incident, Yeardley left campus and stayed at her Cockeysville home where her Mother, Sharon Donnelly Love, begged her to file a police report.
Yeardley refused as she did not want it to interrupt the last weeks of both teams winning seasons. She believed because the last scene was so public Huguely would have no choice but to back off for fear of compromising his status on the UVA mens team.
For anyone unsure about the locker room brethren, as reported by NY Daily News:
A former Virginia student who was friends with both Love and Huguely described a disturbing incident in which Huguely recently reportedly attacked Love, then had no recollection of it the next day, which precipitated their final breakup. “He was really messed up and punched a window of a car on the way over to her apartment that night,” the friend said, speaking on the condition of anonymity out of consideration for Love’s family. The friend said Huguely had been seen breaking bottles at another party before Love’s death and had told people he was going to her apartment to get Love back.
D K E
While Huguely is not listed as an active brother on DKE roster, this Falls newsletter touts an impressive Rush week which rounds out the Dekes with 14 Varsity Athletes; 12 of them from the men’s Lacrosse team. The DKE roster has not been updated to reflect active brothers since 2008 and an email request to alumni affairs director Ian Graham has not been returned. The DKE facebook account has been deleted.
By all accounts, in retrospect, Yeardley’s murder was a predictable incident. Preventable.
Not inasmuch as it could have been foreseen per se, but Generation George was a time bomb.
Incidents abound from his days in Palm Beach where he jumped ship after an argument with Generation G4 whereby he swam to shore as well as his arrest for drunken swearing and THREATENING TO KILL A COP WITH A SIDE OF RACIAL SLUR in November 2008.
There are 8 UVA Men’s Lacrosse members that have had alcohol related arrests in the last two years.
Nationally ranked 2008 Team Captain Will Barrow stunned the entire lacrosse community when he committed suicide two weeks after Huguely’s Rockbridge County arrest.
Ryan Nizolek, #24, was arrested in High School for smuggling steroids into the US from Mexico on a family vacation and brought them to school in a Rolaids bottle.
As the news broke of Yeardley’s murder I have been inundated with emails and texts from several UVA students and their family members that have been admonished not to speak publicly, not to accept new facebook friends and not to answer any questions from the media on or off campus.
The paradox of telling the grieving and concerned matriculation to effectively zip it, after doing just that may have cost Yeardley Love her life, is absurd.
A witness who observed the last physical confrontation between Love and Huguely email excerpt to blinkoncrime.com provided on the condition of anonymity:
…”You have to understand.. He is a big dude with a bigger personality. If anyone has ever told him no, I am not aware of it. It was obvious she did not want him near her. She told him that, and it took 3 of us to hold him back. She was a little thing and she put on a good face, but I walked away feeling like that was not over. I said to lax(xx) that asshole is going to get himself killed or kill somebody. He was nicer on the turf for f*cks sake, I didn’t get it…..”
We are all obsessed about our last year in the game. Everyone parties like rock stars because half of us have more money than rock stars. Well, our parents do.
That is bullshit about him not being a Deke, btw. He beat up a fellow brother in his sleep drunk off his ass one night because he was sleeping on the couch he wanted to sit on, or go to bed on or whatever- He was booted and his friends wanted to stay. That pissed him off royally. His Dad partied with us once in a while. I remember wishing he was my Dad, and then I saw those two go at it. I would still have been cool with a Dad that is that loaded, but not if it meant Huge was my bro.
It wasn’t so much that he was raging all the time. It was weird. It was more like he was 2 diff people. You know what I mean? Like a mood swing on crack. DON’T publish I said he was on crack. Roids for sure and there was mention of an 8 the day of the murder. It was almost like he felt like he was insulted when he was around better players than him. He loved the sport but he had no respect for anyone if they were better in the X.
Do I think anyone intervening could have stopped a murder? I am not sure if that is a fair question or a set up.
My Mom asked me the same thing. I told her I did not get it. There is tons of Hoo Pumpers everywhere, especially this season. I never saw him without some chick, so I don’t get that part. He was a big clamper I heard though, if he didn’t have something cookin. It was not like he could not **** anyone he wanted. He was always like .. Give and Go Bro, everytime I saw him and I had a date. Tell me if you don’t know the lingo but I think you might. I heard ya got skills.
Lol, I am aware that only happens in college before you say something lecture-like.
I really wish I knew that nobody knew what was going on with him. We woulda pulled that scared straight shit on him. Like his version, shop at target instead of Abercrombie for the rest of his life no beach houses. That mighta been harsh of me to say before now. We just hate what he did to his girl, and our last year. I worked my ass off, we all did, and it should have been our thing to remember. Instead, it is fu***** lockdown.
I have reviewed UVA Athletic Director Craig Littlepage quotes on the matter.
Frankly, as an editorial, that verbiage would not have flown from any coach I have ever had, or respected, regardless of the sport.
“They never told me, nothing was reported to me” is the equivalent of ignorance of the law, which is no defense.
How do 8 arrests and a suicide, among other “not so documentable” infractions NOT constitute a red flag, or an intervention?
Safety does not come with a price tag. It comes from accountability and awareness. Huguely posted bond following his arrest on November 15, 2008.
Somebody had to know he was incarcerated. He had a public defender in that case so the question is– Who posted it and how was the fact he was off campus for a few days prior to the Thanksgiving break missed by his coaches?
At the time of this writing, the Virginia Commonwealth has issued an order sealing the search warrants in this case retroactively.
While the justification of that request by Charlottesville Police has not been released, it is an unusual move in a case that has not even seen its first bond hearing or an indictment.
Could it mean that Huguely is connected to the murder of Morgan Harrington?
Virginia State Police, who maintains jurisdiction in the Harrington case is emphatic it is not.
..”It was a Lacrosse player who discovered the purse. However, there is no evidence to indicate any connection between Morgan or the Love homicide. .. There is no connection between these two homicides, so I am not going to even entertain the additional questions. We are not identifying the individual who found the purse…” Corrine Geller, PR Manager VSP to blinkoncrime.com
Morgan’s purse was located by an unidentified male lacrosse player on the way to boarding the bus to an exhibition match in Annapolis, MD.
We have a player accused of first degree murder that by his own statements has had violent encounters with others he has not remembered.
We have players with land connections to the area of North Garden as well an individual who has personally preformed site survey work on Blandemar and Anchorage Farm.
Have all the Lacrosse players been questioned about the circumstances of finding the posession of a missing and murdered woman who was last seen on the UVA campus?
The cases may be may be unrelated.
The Harrington’s buried their daughter Morgan.
The Love family is burying their daughter Yeardley.
Isn’t it time for a little disclosure as to whether or not these lingering questions have been asked and answered?
Yeardley Love, will receive her Bachelor’s Degree in Political Science with a minor in Spanish posthumously with her class from the University of Virginia.
Love’s family and friends begin receiving those wishing to pay their respects today where she will also be laid to rest tomorrow, in Maryland.
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This Article for Good Morning America:
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/TheLaw/yeardley-love-death-warning-signs-missed-ahead-university/story?id=10581761&page=2
Provides a link to the search warrant affadavit
Seems like there may be another incident, or maybe the same between GH and Yeardley at UNC…had to do with UNC players…could be the same one as has been referenced here but the original impression was of one that took place in C-ville.
This article has conflicting statements in that in the first reference to UNC players they say, “George Huguely, also 22, had attacked her months before while socializing with visiting players from the University of North Carolina.” but then further down the writer says, “The incident at the University of North Carolina was reportedly broken up by other lacrosse players. It wasn’t the first time Huguely had attracted such attention.” (This article goes on to state that his father GH4 called 911 re: the Yacht incident in Florida.)
One thing to note about this UNC incident…it says it occurred MONTHS AGO…wonder how many?
According to my sources, people are actually mixing up incidents and accounts. There were a few.
B
If the bus left around 8 am on the 18th or did you mean the 17th, then George could have been at concert and partying the day Morgan was killed. When the LE says no connection, how do they know no connection?
Right on, Sally Jenkins:
from today’s WaPo –
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/05/07/AR2010050704895.html
Ending paragraph:
“The truth is, women can’t do anything about this problem. Men are the only ones who can change it — by taking responsibility for their locker room culture, and the behavior and language of their teammates. Nothing will change until the biggest stars in the clubhouse are mortally offended, until their grief and remorse over an assault trumps their solidarity.”
I think, however, women can do something: they can stop worshipping the jock culture,stop demeaning themselves into thinking that their status is somehow enhanced by whom they date, stop enduring the routine insults associated with the locker room culture toward women, stop dating these men. Period. And most of all, speak up and with authority and don’t stop speaking up if they are witness to abuse.
I haven’t chimed in for a long time but have been steadily reading and hoping for justice for all of the victims that you work for Blink. Thanks for covering this so quickly and thoroughly, although it may just be the tip of the iceberg of the story.
You mention in the article:
” As the news broke of Yeardley’s murder I have been inundated with emails and texts from several UVA students and their family members that have been admonished not to speak publicly, not to accept new facebook friends and not to answer any questions from the media on or off campus.”
This reminded me of when I worked for a very prestigious University in Pittsburgh, PA when there had been a shake-up in the administration of a department that made the news. A department meeting for all faculty, staff, and students was quickly held where everyone was told not to speak about it. Special emphasis was directed toward the students on how anything that would reflect badly on the University would devalue their degrees that they were working so hard and paying so much for. The looks upon those students faces showed that they bought it hook, line, and sinker.
And Blink in the comments:
“While I am at it, did I mention how pissed I am that Casteen points out the murder happened on private property and not on campus? As if it matters.
All the money in the world can’t buy resurrection, and it can’t buy a time machine.
No MUCUS (thanks bearly there) here.
B ”
If this had occurred on campus we would know very little of what happened. We might not even know GH’s name. I might be stretching the point a bit there, but I also feel safe in saying that if it were both on campus and a death was not involved, but only a severe beating, that we would not even be aware that anything happened at all. We also might never have found out that a male (boy with a small “b”?) uva lax player found Morgan’s purse.
I sure do hope that when they start checking GH’s DNA to samples in evidence from known assaults that he can be held accountable for his past transgressions.
My deepest condolences to the family and friends of Yeardley Love and to any other of GH’s victims.
My husband is in Baltimore today at my son’s lax game. They just went by the funeral area and he say’s its unbelievable, the cars go on forever! What a tribute to her and her family. so sad.
It amazes me the people who come here with negative and/or rude posts. If you don’t like to here, then don’t come here. It makes me wonder why you feel the need to attack instead of just gracefully leaving and moving on to a site that better suits your opinions and points of view.
Bill, thanks for posting that, but you can actually see him right screen at 2:40 ish.
They did not stay in DC that night. The team caught the bus around 8am.
B
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Yes, my first post stated that he is visible at the 2:37 mark. I know the team didn’t stay in D.C. In other articles, people speculated that he may have stayed in D.C. with his parents the night before since he went to school at Landon. Further, Hummingbird (Post #28) demanded that he/she know the following information:
1. Who was on the bus to Annapolis?
2. Who should have been on the bus but didn’t make it?
3. Who was supposed to play but had to sit out?
4. [I know the answer to #3.] So, WHY?
Well obviously GH was on the bus and played, so who is he/she insinuating didn’t play?
MsL, I am also curious as to why no further news came out, after January 29th, 2010, about Kristan Fox. Again No names released, on the two men who brought her to the hospital at 1:00AM on DEC 30th… not New Year’s Eve as some on the web have suggest.
My child graduated from VCU with a a BSW and a minor in Crimminal Justice…I think I will ask her if she knew Ms Fox? This just doesn’t add up either. She was a 26 year old, continuous student, (Summa Cum Lade!)working on her PhD and was a prolific writer…as referenced when one does a web search. This one is a true mystery. Now, if it were deemed a suicide then there would probably not be any press. Am very curious about the tox screen.
I completely agree with you. I would like a status on that case myself.
B
I am notorious for typos “as some on the web have suggest.” Should have read “suggested.” Sorry folks I will try harder to proofread before hitting ENTER :~0
Here is what is really bothering me now about Morgan’s case still being unsolved…if a student was involved in her murder they are ready to leave campus for the summer. They may never return to the area. They may change schools or they maybe graduating.
I really hope that any students who have anything to input into Morgan’s case will do so immediately.
this comment comes from the hook—-AlwaysRight May 8th, 2010 | 4:59 am
On 2/4/10, GH was kicked out of local bar for providing alcohol to 2 underage co-eds and then ___threatening them for not returning his advances___. GH became very aggressive with the bouncers. The police were happen to drive by and asked GH to leave, although he intially became more abusive when they threatened to arrest him he left.
***if this is true,it seems his passionate rage wasnt just for yeardly*** i dont see this as a self contained love story gone bad as some do,could he possibly have been on the lastfastest escalated turn of downwardspiral that was behaviour le alerted people to be on the lookout for in the very beginning. yet.. are le really adding a third poi rule out with the statement release ‘not connected’? to me it says dna doesnt match or solid alibi.should we stop thinking there could be a connection 100%,blink? who had to live with the beast?
This post was on an older thread and the link TJ provided re the spike in rape cases in Virginia in October 2009 is pretty shocking.Worth a look at and reposting here .Thanks TJ.
TJ says:
May 7, 2010 at 11:30 pm
I was doing some research, because honestly, although I agree it is in until it is out, I (sadly) don’t think George Huguely is likely related to Morgan because guys like that aren’t all that strange. Domestic violence is ridiculously common. In the city where I live, which has about 120k people, it is the #1 reported crime…as I believe it is in many moderately sized cities around the country. Sadly, guys who drink often beat those closest to them. So anyway, I came across this report:
http://www.vsp.state.va.us/downloads/Crime_in_Virginia_2009.pdf
I recognize that this is probably a statistic anomaly, but WHAT was going on in Virginia last October? Check out page 15, which shows the graphs of the reported forcible rapes in 10/09.
TJ
another comment from the hook—-HarryD May 8th, 2010 | 9:48 am
I am surprised the punk didn’t—- use his lacrosse stick—– oh, maybe that would have not been manly………..
werent we saying…. – When was the last practice before scrimmage on 18th?sticks in the car,ready for the morning?when i read his lax profile ,i was ‘gasp’ : “attaker”,”good with his sticks” i also always imagined that perp returned to the lot in a rushed hurry cuz he had to be back there,friends suspecting nothing are around his car when he is either packing them or their stuff in or out of his car/trunk and sees the purse ,slyly grabs it out his car before anyone sees it and low swings it as far as can in an unobtrusive way,or walks it and drops it,for the very reason that he has to get rid of it there and now.—when did the team return?
Right now in Charlottesville the wind is blowing hard, with gusts of at least 40 miles per hour. The electricity is flickering on and off. A huge branch just fell off of a tree behind the house, crashed over the deck where I was sitting 20 minutes ago and fell into the back yard. I hope it’s the same wind that prompted Farmer Bass to check his fences the morning of January 26th. I am ready for something to be stirred up in regards to Morgan’s murder.
Despite the weird coincidence of a lacrosse player finding Morgan’s purse on October 18th, I doubt George Huguely had anything to do with Morgan’s death, even though he is a batterer who escalates when drunk. He left Yeardly’s body where it lay; he left a bloody, messy crime scene, even though he had the forethought to hide her computer. If he turns out to be the individual who killed Morgan, I would guess he had some serious help in covering it up and in taking Morgan to Anchorage Farm. I don’t know that I believe that is probable. I hope this ill wind stirs up some facts.
Locals, we will have to check on Morgan’s memorial bridge tomorrow after the wind dies down.
Geeze, Be careful and take cover Juliemooly
B
Re: no information on Kristan Fox. I don’t know whether LE just never follows up on releasing information, or if local media looses interest after the initial reporting unless the story is sensational, such as a missing woman from the vicinity of the arena after a concert, or the death of an athlete at the hands of another.
I think that Yeardley’s untimely death shows us all that there are agression problems on fraternity row and with the atheletes. Perhaps the purse and Morgan’s t-shirt where left where they were to try to throw LE in the direction of frat boys gone wild and jocks gone wild.
It almost seems anyone in that area would see drunken behavior on any given Saturday night. I don’t think GH had anything to do with Morgan..but I do think another student from the area did.
This school is a mess.
I think that there are other members of this team that could be involved in Morgan’s murder. LE needs to be more forthcoming with information. The public can help, but not if they are pushed away either by LE and the University Administration or in this case both.
The E-mail(s) from the students and the admonition from the school to keep it quiet is very telling. Sadly, our schools allow things to go on that are bad behavior and sometimes criminal and then they want to keep it away from the public in order to protect their reputation.
I certainly believe that the Lacrosse mens coach should be questioned by the police and either fired or suspended by the University.
An even better solution, in my opinion, is to suspend all coaching staff and administrative staff and shut down the school until the perp that killed Morgan is found. If the students know something, which I believe that they do, this move may produce the leads to solve the crime.
Our students unfortunately have been allowed to take little or no responsibility for their acts and the adults around them have not taught them otherwise. They lie,cheat and steal because they are certain that no real punishment will be forthcoming.
My heart aches for Yeardley’s mother. She knew the dangerous situation that her child insisted going back to be in and she could not make her see it for herself. Girls and young women often delude themselves into thinking that they can talk a bad guy into good behavior. This seldom happens. A bad guy is bad to the core and no amount of talking is going to change that behavior.
One day when we get a little more mature as a society, these people will be identified early and removed from society so that they cannot cause harm to others.
juliemooly said @ 2:42 p.m.:
“Right now in Charlottesville the wind is blowing hard, with gusts of at least 40 miles per hour. The electricity is flickering on and off. A huge branch just fell off of a tree behind the house, crashed over the deck where I was sitting 20 minutes ago and fell into the back yard. I hope it’s the same wind that prompted Farmer Bass to check his fences the morning of January 26th. I am ready for something to be stirred up in regards to Morgan’s murder.”
I’m hoping the wind blows those wingnuts from Westboro Baptist “Church” back to Kansas (or wherever it is they squat).
Excellent piece, Blink!
TY friend
B
The Baltimore sun has a touching article today about Yeardley and her and her funeral this morning.
http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/maryland/bs-md-love-funeral-0509-20100508,0,689729.story
Video links to the October 18, 2009 Fall Ball LAX Tournament.
#11 can be seen playing in both exhibition games.
12:30 game- Virginia vs. Navy
http://laxbuzz.com/2009/10/28/college-mens-lacrosse-virginia-mens-lacrosse-plays-navy-in-2009-fall-ball-lacrosse-video/#comments
3:00 game- Virginia vs. Team USA Blue:
http://laxbuzz.com/2009/10/28/college-mens-lacrosse-virginia-mens-lacrosse-plays-navy-in-2009-fall-ball-lacrosse-video/#comments
As far as I can see, the only crime George Huguhly is guilty of is being a white male….which doesn’t surprise me, in this Age of 0bama, where success is frowned down upon by the liberal PC media elites.
What ever happened to being found innocent until proven guilty? But no, instead we hear about some black cop who got her “feelings hurt” (probably an affirmative action hire), all we hear in the media is how George Huguley is now somehow a “racist”. Meanwhile, illegals continue to pour across out boarders.
I view the liberal media, along with shrill tabloid keyboard journalists like Blink, with nothing but disgust and contempt.
He confessed you yutz.
BTW, it is pretty clear you view everyone with contempt, most especially yourself.
B
Is it true that George Huguely was enraged that Yeardley was getting back with her ex boyfriend (former older UVA lacrosser who had graduated 2 years prior and is in law school in NYC) whose father had just died of cancer in Feb like her father several years ago? Some peopel have said that they had re bonded recently over that. I saw his name quoted in the first reports of her death and it seems that he is still very close to yeardleys family?
RE: “Justice says:
May 7, 2010 at 10:57 pm
I’ve got him in anger management right now, against the advice of, well all of the aforementioned people. This is NOT just a stage. This is a PROBLEM, and why oh why can’t people see this.”
Justice —
When you feel something is wrong with your child DO NOT let anyone tell you that you are wrong. DO NOT listen to anyone who tells you that you are overreacting. You know when something is not right. Go with that gut feeling. Find someone who will listen. Try a family counselor, a child psychologist, a behavior specialist….
When my oldest son was in high school, I knew something wasn’t right. His grades were slipping- not a lot. Just a mass of little things. i went to the guidance office and that told me it was just a phase. Great kid. So many others worse than him. They told me I needed to step back and let him grow up.
Turns out he was high or drink for the last two years of high school. He ended up dropping out of college. Had a felony arrest for possession (no jail time). Didn’t speak to us for many months. Eventually had no place to stay. Wouldn’t come home but did agree to stay with my aunt. Eventually he straightened his life. He’s almost 30 and lives in Portland. Still an unconventional kinda guy but supporting himself and actually back in school. We have a great relationship.
How I wish I had listened to that part of me that said he needed help. That is wasn’t a stage. I wish I had dragged him by his ear to counseling. But I allowed others to tell me that i was the one who had the problem, that I was overreacting, that I was over protective.
Do NOT ignore those feelings. Keep looking for help. In the end, no matter what happens, you need to know you have done everything you could possibly do for him.
I will keep you both in my prayers. May god grant you strength.
dew
17.A Texas Grandfather says:
May 8, 2010 at 5:02 pm
This school is a mess.
I think that there are other members of this team that could be involved in Morgan’s murder. LE needs to be more forthcoming with information. The public can help, but not if they are pushed away either by LE and the University Administration or in this case both.
The E-mail(s) from the students and the admonition from the school to keep it quiet is very telling. Sadly, our schools allow things to go on that are bad behavior and sometimes criminal and then they want to keep it away from the public in order to protect their reputation.
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I agree…but what can we do?
Great restraint shown to TeaParty-head, Blink. Maybe you’ll get a “yutz” trap for Mom’s Day.
lol
B
Haven’t posted in months but felt compelled to do so now.
To – TeaPartyPatriot
First of all, you need to get some manners and stick to the subject we are talking about here. Everything is not all about you and I can see you have some deep seated hate issues. Take your business elsewhere because we don’t want the likes of you wasting space or our time. Also, you are definitely not a patriot so be gone with you and get a life. Don’t let the door hit you on your way out, dude.
What she said.
B
I posted Casteen’s letter but got no response from any of you…no thanks for that perspective or anything of the sort. Just trying to be fair to all involved here, and thought it mader sense to also post Pres. casteen’s message. Blink, I understand that you and many of you on here have closed your eyes and ears to anything at all that UVA has to say, even in support of their community and this tragedy, so I will no longer post on your site anymore. To assume UVA is a horrible place (yes that is the clear message)with no soul (yes that IS the gist of your message)is unfair. Are they perfect? Of course not. Goodbye all.
Let me understand this correctly-
Your done here because you did not get the response you wanted? Isn’t that about you?
Your thoughts could not be further from the truth. I encourage the truth to effect change in this case and will support UVA through it.
Respectfully, a blind eye stays blind.
B
Teapartypatriot:
You are making some very biased assumptions, and you have not done your due diligence, which is ridiculously lazy in the age of google.
1. RL Moss is not a black. Even if she were, your point would be completely irrelevant, unless it’s okay to be rude to someone because of their skin color (wishing there were a sarcasm font right about now).
2. George Huguely’s problems and behavior were in play long before Obama entered politics. Besides, that Obama is responsible for this boy’s upbringing is beyond all possible comprehension.
3. George Huguely would be innocent until proven guilty, except that he confessed to the crime. He waived his own Miranda rights, and told the detectives what he did, and where to look for the incriminating evidence. Looks like the boy’s conscience finally started working.
How you expect to be taken seriously, spewing all of this false logic to support several flawed arguments makes you look like an idiot.
Just sayin.
hi blink,
i just wanted to share this..
i went to my sisters lax game today, they played UNC which is in the same conference as UVA…it was so sad. Ms. Love was on everyone’s minds and i saw multiple people becoming visibly upset when discussing it…needless to say, i had tears in my eyes throughout the whole game…and now i’m watching Lovely Bones (yes i like to torture myself
anyway, i just wanted to share a personal experience. when i was in 10th grade, my best friend at the time was in a physically abusive relationship with a senior..my friend began coming to school with bruises on her face and neck and NO ONE did anything about it or questioned it. i tried to talk to her about it but she wouldnt listen. finally i had enough and told my guidance counselor, who took it to the next level. well, my friend got so mad at me and told her boyfriend that i was the one that told, and he parked his car outside of my house one night and started screaming profanities at me so bad that the neighbor called the police. the whole thing was horrible, especially at that tender age when you are so worried about what everyone thinks of you. this kid was captain of the wrestling team and tried to make my life a living hell after that. i dreaded going to school because he would torment me. after six years of not talking to my friend, i ran into her one day when i was out to dinner in philly. She walked right up to me and infront of me and my best friend from penn state, told me that she wanted to thank me for tellin someone that this guy was abusing her when we were in high school. She said she was too scared to do it herself and that she felt horrible for not talking to me after it happened. She apologized perfusely and I was left pretty much speechless, as was my friend. She told me she was lucky to have a friend who cared and that out of all of her friends who knew what went on, i was the only one who said anything…i dont really know what specific message i’m tryin to get across with this post, but i hope someone reads it and can get something out of it.
rip yeardley and morgan, you are angels.
You did the right thing, and I encourage all to do the same. Bravo
B
#23: 23.dew says:
May 8, 2010 at 7:24 pm
I will keep you both in my prayers. May god grant you strength:
TY dew, and don’t worry. He will go to counseling if I have to pull him by his ears! I, myself, studied Criminal Justice, and this is my 3rd child, so I do know when something isn’t right. Of course each child is different, but this one, I’ll tell ya, it’s been like living in another world altogether. He may scare me at times, but he doesn’t know it, and no matter how much he “buffs” up to me, I give it right back. He has a mental evaluation coming up next week, as I have lots of depression/bipolar/and other mental problems that run in the family. Also next week, I have a really big “Bubba” probation officer coming to make a visit, and he’s going on a little ride to the juvie hall closest to us for a few hours. I can’t wait to take pics of “that” reaction when he comes driving up with his handcuffs in hand
I know, somehow, someway, somewhere, I’ll find him help, or else lock him in his room until he’s 18 with nothing more than 4 walls to look at.
I just can’t believe the ignorance of everybody else when it comes to kids with problems like this, if that’s what you want to call it. To me, it’s more like stupidity when it’s staring you right in the face and you still don’t see it!
For now, all of what is being said about other UVa lacross team members and the coach, is speculation. Speculation is not fact and I don’t believe is grounds for conviction in any court of law. If it should the proven that there is other team involvement or cover-up in Yearley’s death, those involved should be arrested or expelled. If it should be proven that the coach knew George Huguely was a danger to Ms. Love or any other person, then he should be fired. Before speculating and suggesting punishment or firing, let’s hear some proof. Remember, Ms. Love thought enough of the members of both the men’s and women’s lacrosse teams that she wouldn’t file a police report. Such a report would have done no harm to the women’s team. If she felt that members of the men’s team or the coach were covering for or protecting this man who was apparently causing her to fear for her safety, why would she have any concern about disrupting their winning season? Sadly, Mr. Huguely was more of a threat than she realized. If there is proof that members of administration knew that this young man was a danger to Ms. Love or other students, the University’s Board of Visitors should take a serious look at finding replacements. Before speculating, let’s hear some proof. The majority of students and faculty at this University and most colleges across this country never make headlines because they are at school doing what they are suppose to be doing, getting an education or providing the opportunity for an education. To judge the quality of a school and its entire student body by the actions of a few is grossly unfair.
As for Morgan, there were at least 8,000 people at the concert that night. Some were probably students, some were locals, and many other attendees were from out of town. It’s possible, maybe even probable, that a local is responsible. It’s possible a student was involved. For now we do not know. To suggest that the school should be shut down until her killer is found is just plain ridiculous. Can anyone seriously believe the entire student body is withholding information about Morgan’s disappearance and murder? I doubt very seriously that there are multiple people who know what happened to her. Maybe more than one, maybe even more than two. We always hear there’s safety in numbers. In the case of a secret such as murder, there is a real danger in numbers. To add another cliche, loose lips sink ships.
Respectfully MsL-
Coach disciplined Huguely for beating the snot out of a team mate. That is once I can PROVE he was aware of. There are more that have been repeated to me that may be subject to a gag order.
If not, they will come out.
Nobody is villafying UVA in general. I am talking about facts.
Why would you say loose lips.. I did not understand that.
B
Go Blink – loved your reply to Piss Potty, er, TeaParty Patriot.
Does anyone know what kind of vehicle the Beast drove?
To: TeaPartyPatriot
You wrote “As far as I can see, the only crime George Huguhly (sic) is guilty of is being a white male…”
I just want to be clear, are you saying that getting drunk and beating up a former girlfriend until she “accidentally” dies is NORMAL and ACCEPTABLE behavior for a white male? And, may I assume that you are one of those?
That behavior may be typical of the “white males” of your acquaintance, but it doesn’t suit a MAN of any color. If you’re interested in learning about that, Texas Grandfather can fill you in.
“I’m hoping the wind blows those wingnuts from Westboro Baptist “Church” back to Kansas (or wherever it is they squat).”
Let’s just all just put on our shiny shoes, click our heels together three times, and hope they vanish off to Oz where the poppies and evil monkeys can handle them.
Sorry, tough week.
Suz,
You are so funny! I thought about the whole P.I.G./cop thing, too. It could go either way, sort of a double entendre. She was a bit older than me, and while not a true hippie, definitely her own person. Could have been any kind of statement. She wasn’t a cop hater, and although a little wild, was rather adept at avoiding them, too. She was raised in the country, and saw a few pigs slaughtered, and nothing flapped her. Except when her dad beat the crap out of her, in front of me. That was traumatizing for both of us, but in hindsight, we both had a healthy respect for authority and to this day, are no worse off for the “tough love.”
Anyway, if I had to name one quality that defines character, it is integrity. Without that, all the rest seems meaningless. That’s where I think we as a society are failing our kids. Most of them can’t spell NtegRT.
TeaPartyPatriot says:
May 8, 2010 at 6:33 pm
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Can’t believe I’m reading this on this forum. Don’t want to give you an audience, but have to point out that I doubt the female officer was of a minority race. My guess, GH was sort of like you, white, male, aggressive, angry, and unreasonable, and just spouting off what was in his heart, and it’s ugly. Who is it, really, that feels entitled, and begrudges anyone that threatens the sanctity of their exclusive group? Go back to your paranoid, t-party, political BS spouting clan, and rant to your grave. Nobody else cares. You, sir, may be wearing a tri-cornered hat, but are no patriot, BTW.
Justice, you may think about contacting an addhd group in your area. Tho this is likley not his problem, they will know of the very best professionals for behavior therapies; or can direct you there. It could be invaluable. They don’t like to loose children, or their parents!
He confessed you yutz.
BTW, it is pretty clear you view everyone with contempt, most especially yourself.
B
Blink -
You made my day, I haven’t laughed that hard in quite sometime.
I have read some of your past witty responses to my husband and as I read the TeaPartyParrott’s blog, my husband could not wait to hear your response.
I can tell you with all honesty that when he stopped laughing he gave a total thumbs up!
TY, shoutout to Mr. Sweetpea!
Happy Mothers Day All.
B
What’s the difference between a boarder and a border? One is a tenant and one is a boundary
How can you tell someone is guilty or not before a trial? A confession
What’s the best way to get the message across to someone that they’re a YUTZ? Send ‘em to Blink
Lol Lol
Long and Emotional Day and I so needed that. Thank You.
My sincere love and sympathies to Sharon and Lexie Love, and family.
Brutal. Just a brutal day.
B
I know Blink. Be a mom on this day because we honor Gil and Sharon when we do that. Good moms take care of themselves and they take care of their cubs. Happy Mother’s Day Friend!! Let go for a bit, K?
That is my intention. Thanks as always for your kind words of support.
I am a Mom, with a Mom. Today we celebrate that.
My sincere Mom’s Day wishes to all.
Love
B
lee says:
May 8, 2010 at 8:09 pm
I posted Casteen’s letter but got no response from any of you…no thanks for that perspective or anything of the sort.
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Lee, I read your post. Didn’t respond, mainly because I don’t doubt his sincerity at this moment in time, but it seems too little too late. That said, he could be any college president on any college campus in this country. A true leader, which we hope our college presidents to be, is proactive, and recognizes these threats and tries to increase awareness and make change, on more than a surface level, before such a sad tragedy occurs. Based on what I’ve read about this particular university president, he has avoided taking on the hard issues, where student rape and violence are concerned. Again, he could be any college president anywhere. Most of them I think are sadly in denial. But, they’re dealing with what the parents send to them, and as long as the tuition is paid, well, they can say “the students are adults and are expected to behave as adults.” Riiight.
Here’s some information that might shed some light on what most universities are running from, and why they might try really hard to place distance between crime and the university…
“The Jeanne Clery Disclosure of Campus Security Policy and Campus Crime Statistics Act or Clery Act is a federal statute codified at 20 U.S.C. § 1092(f), with implementing regulations in the U.S. Code of Federal Regulations at 34 C.F.R. 668.46.
The Clery Act requires all colleges and universities that participate in federal financial aid programs to keep and disclose information about crime on and near their respective campuses. Compliance is monitored by the United States Department of Education, which can impose civil penalties, up to $27,500 per violation, against institutions for each infraction and can suspend institutions from participating in federal student financial aid programs.
The law is named for Jeanne Clery, a 19-year-old Lehigh University freshman who was raped and murdered in her campus residence hall in 1986. The Clery Act, signed in 1990, was originally known as the Crime Awareness and Campus Security Act.”
The act requires colleges whose students receive financial aid to provide information publicly about the crimes that occur on and around the campus. What college wants to report a kidnapping, much less a murder, to prospective students and parents? But, instead of addressing the underlying issues that cause some of these crimes, most universities will choose to suppress the actual numbers of these crimes that must be publicly reported on their web sites. Even if they are aware of every single crime, I suspect that they will look for some technical loophole that will justify not reporting them all. Google the information on any college website, look at the numbers of violent crimes that are listed, compare them to the total enrollment numbers, compare large schools with small, and ask yourself if those numbers make sense. Bearing in mind that most rapes and violent crimes against women are never reported, particularly among the college population. If you are aware, and are interested in these issues, the information is out there, and it is the elephant in the room. Don’t get me wrong. We love our universities. In most communities, they drive the local economy. But, the climate has to change, and the only people in the position to effect that change, are college presidents. They must take up the mantle. Casteen has missed his opportunity with his university to set a precedent and change the culture. What he says in the wake of this tragedy, is sadly a statement tinged with regret. The best we can hope for now is that UVA and other universities will learn from this, and apply, what they already know.
Happy Mothers day to all of you wonderful moms who have become my friends.
I have learned a new word YUTZ!!
Ha Ha guess that is another ‘Jersey word
Really Blink you are a card my dear
Looking forward to J2K’s response to that gem
I am getting quite the education here on BOC in many ways, funny and sad.
Yes it has been a brutal day, a lot to think about.
Will be thinking of Gil, and Yeardleys’s mom tomorrow.
Prayers to all moms of who have lost their children.
Heartfelt thanks to you Blink fearless matriach that you are amongst other things
including funny!!
After hearing about GHIV and GHV’s episode off the shores of P. Beach and some disclosure about the former partying heavily with the latter, it leads me to surmise that the apple hasn’t fallen too far from the tree on this. Am I saying that the elder Huguely was a belligerent drunk like the reports indicate his son to be? Not necessarily, but it certainly makes you wonder what the circumstances in the marriage to GHV’s mother and what sort of behavior was modeled in that household and the Huguely household, generation upon generation. I’m guessing that the situation had to have been similar in the household where the perpetrator(s) that is (are) responsible for Morgan’s death was raised.
I’m with Texas Grandfather on many of his assertions about manners and respect for all and how they have been eroded.
Also, politics aside: ignore the Tea Party poster, b/c he’s certainly forgotten his manners and his assertions are misplaced- wrong forum, sir.
Sunshine, thank you for sharing your experience. I wonder if your daughter came to you with a similar dilemma if you would encourage her to take action similar to the action you took? If you thought she would also experience, “Friend got so mad at me and told her boyfriend that i was the one that told, and he parked his car outside of my house one night and started screaming profanities at me so bad that the neighbor called the police. the whole thing was horrible, especially at that tender age when you are so worried about what everyone thinks of you. this kid was captain of the wrestling team and tried to make my life a living hell after that. i dreaded going to school because he would torment me.” My thinking is action must be taken but we must pause to consider the reality of the outcome. Dealing with bullies and abusers is dangerous for everyone as you discovered. Knowing what you now know can you think how you could have helped your friend without turning your life into a “living hell”? That’s unfortunately isn’t an easy question to answer.
Gypsy DD says:
May 8, 2010 at 12:06 pm
Here is what is really bothering me now about Morgan’s case still being unsolved…if a student was involved in her murder they are ready to leave campus for the summer. They may never return to the area. They may change schools or they maybe graduating.
I really hope that any students who have anything to input into Morgan’s case will do so immediately.
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Gypsy DD, I am inclined to agree. Population, Charlottesville, roughly 40,000. Student population, including graduate students, roughly 20,000. Charlottesville metro area population roughly 195,000. A 20,000 student population is a large chunk to NOT consider, especially since they would be in the closest proximity to where Morgan’s murder originated. We don’t know. Maybe the student population has been considered. With lack of information, no one knows. But you’re right, once they and their friends/acquaintances leave the area, nearly impossible to investigate them.
Jason says:
May 7, 2010 at 9:35 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RPG6JvjKIZ8&feature=youtube_gdata
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Last serial post of the night. Jason, thanks for this post. The best offense is a good defense.
Dear Lee,
I am still digesting Casteen’s letter…
What were your thoughts on it?
Justice, you know your son better than any of those other people, trust your instincts!
Congratulations on being a responsible and loving mom who cares about the person her son is becoming!
Is your son sorry after he has had an outburst of anger; does he seem confused by what happens to him and why he gets that way? Does it seem like he is “not himself” at those times? Does he get depressed or self-destructive? Seek the mental health help, it’s possible they will be able to give him a huge boost towards self control and inner calm, if something is going on in that way. At the same time you need tough love. You say “When he was a toddler, it was cute.” It could be that that’s where the problem began. We all have to learn to take no for an answer and the longer it gets put off from toddler-hood, the uglier it gets.
There is a woman named Nancy Thomas who has helped many people with the toughest of the tough kids, you might find some of the strategies she has developed to be helpful with your son.
I think that there are ways to earn the respect of a child without using physical punishment and a big part of that is just how you demand to be treated and being a trustworthy person of integrity yourself.
You have to find concrete ways to constantly show your unconditional love and acceptance while at the same time unbendingly holding him accountable for every single thing, in appropriate ways. The two things are not mutually exclusive, rather, you have to have both. You can’t be punitive in a get-even sort of way, you have to do everything out of love, but at the same time, you can’t let anything slide.
Let him know you are disappointed in him because you believe in him and know he is capable of better when he messes up, so even when you’re coming down on him you’re building him up. And see that he deals with the logical consequences of his actions so he can learn from them, just be there to let him know you still love him and that you know he’s strong enough to pay the consequences and be a better person.
You did right by calling the police if it was needed. I’m assuming a boy who threatened you with a shotgun no longer owns any shotgun to threaten with. Keep believing in him, cheering him on in his development, loving him WHILE seeing that he is held accountable and experiences the logical consequences of his behavior. Good luck and hang in there. Be unwavering, and be patient, and give yourself a huge pat on the back and a break when you need one. It is the toughest job in the whole wide world!!! {{{hugs}}}