Beauty and The Beast: The Predictable Murder of Yeardley Love By George Huguely
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Charlottesville, VA- At approximately 9 PM the evening of May 2nd, George Huguely, V left a golf outing he drank at all day, visibly intoxicated according to fellow attendees. It was the beginning of the end of a rancorous binge drinking track record for the prodigal son of George and Marta (Sanson Murphy) Huguely.
It was the gruesome end for star athlete Yeardley Reynolds Love.
Yeardley said ITS OVER to the heir of Huguely’s family’s century old lumber business and spent the last weeks of her life in fear George would make good on his threats.
Sources inside the circle of Love and her family have stated that the most recent threats and public observation of the couple occurred at Huguely’s former frat, Delta Kappa Epsilon.
Following this incident, Yeardley left campus and stayed at her Cockeysville home where her Mother, Sharon Donnelly Love, begged her to file a police report.
Yeardley refused as she did not want it to interrupt the last weeks of both teams winning seasons. She believed because the last scene was so public Huguely would have no choice but to back off for fear of compromising his status on the UVA mens team.
For anyone unsure about the locker room brethren, as reported by NY Daily News:
A former Virginia student who was friends with both Love and Huguely described a disturbing incident in which Huguely recently reportedly attacked Love, then had no recollection of it the next day, which precipitated their final breakup. “He was really messed up and punched a window of a car on the way over to her apartment that night,” the friend said, speaking on the condition of anonymity out of consideration for Love’s family. The friend said Huguely had been seen breaking bottles at another party before Love’s death and had told people he was going to her apartment to get Love back.
D K E
While Huguely is not listed as an active brother on DKE roster, this Falls newsletter touts an impressive Rush week which rounds out the Dekes with 14 Varsity Athletes; 12 of them from the men’s Lacrosse team. The DKE roster has not been updated to reflect active brothers since 2008 and an email request to alumni affairs director Ian Graham has not been returned. The DKE facebook account has been deleted.
By all accounts, in retrospect, Yeardley’s murder was a predictable incident. Preventable.
Not inasmuch as it could have been foreseen per se, but Generation George was a time bomb.
Incidents abound from his days in Palm Beach where he jumped ship after an argument with Generation G4 whereby he swam to shore as well as his arrest for drunken swearing and THREATENING TO KILL A COP WITH A SIDE OF RACIAL SLUR in November 2008.
There are 8 UVA Men’s Lacrosse members that have had alcohol related arrests in the last two years.
Nationally ranked 2008 Team Captain Will Barrow stunned the entire lacrosse community when he committed suicide two weeks after Huguely’s Rockbridge County arrest.
Ryan Nizolek, #24, was arrested in High School for smuggling steroids into the US from Mexico on a family vacation and brought them to school in a Rolaids bottle.
As the news broke of Yeardley’s murder I have been inundated with emails and texts from several UVA students and their family members that have been admonished not to speak publicly, not to accept new facebook friends and not to answer any questions from the media on or off campus.
The paradox of telling the grieving and concerned matriculation to effectively zip it, after doing just that may have cost Yeardley Love her life, is absurd.
A witness who observed the last physical confrontation between Love and Huguely email excerpt to blinkoncrime.com provided on the condition of anonymity:
…”You have to understand.. He is a big dude with a bigger personality. If anyone has ever told him no, I am not aware of it. It was obvious she did not want him near her. She told him that, and it took 3 of us to hold him back. She was a little thing and she put on a good face, but I walked away feeling like that was not over. I said to lax(xx) that asshole is going to get himself killed or kill somebody. He was nicer on the turf for f*cks sake, I didn’t get it…..”
We are all obsessed about our last year in the game. Everyone parties like rock stars because half of us have more money than rock stars. Well, our parents do.
That is bullshit about him not being a Deke, btw. He beat up a fellow brother in his sleep drunk off his ass one night because he was sleeping on the couch he wanted to sit on, or go to bed on or whatever- He was booted and his friends wanted to stay. That pissed him off royally. His Dad partied with us once in a while. I remember wishing he was my Dad, and then I saw those two go at it. I would still have been cool with a Dad that is that loaded, but not if it meant Huge was my bro.
It wasn’t so much that he was raging all the time. It was weird. It was more like he was 2 diff people. You know what I mean? Like a mood swing on crack. DON’T publish I said he was on crack. Roids for sure and there was mention of an 8 the day of the murder. It was almost like he felt like he was insulted when he was around better players than him. He loved the sport but he had no respect for anyone if they were better in the X.
Do I think anyone intervening could have stopped a murder? I am not sure if that is a fair question or a set up.
My Mom asked me the same thing. I told her I did not get it. There is tons of Hoo Pumpers everywhere, especially this season. I never saw him without some chick, so I don’t get that part. He was a big clamper I heard though, if he didn’t have something cookin. It was not like he could not **** anyone he wanted. He was always like .. Give and Go Bro, everytime I saw him and I had a date. Tell me if you don’t know the lingo but I think you might. I heard ya got skills.
Lol, I am aware that only happens in college before you say something lecture-like.
I really wish I knew that nobody knew what was going on with him. We woulda pulled that scared straight shit on him. Like his version, shop at target instead of Abercrombie for the rest of his life no beach houses. That mighta been harsh of me to say before now. We just hate what he did to his girl, and our last year. I worked my ass off, we all did, and it should have been our thing to remember. Instead, it is fu***** lockdown.
I have reviewed UVA Athletic Director Craig Littlepage quotes on the matter.
Frankly, as an editorial, that verbiage would not have flown from any coach I have ever had, or respected, regardless of the sport.
“They never told me, nothing was reported to me” is the equivalent of ignorance of the law, which is no defense.
How do 8 arrests and a suicide, among other “not so documentable” infractions NOT constitute a red flag, or an intervention?
Safety does not come with a price tag. It comes from accountability and awareness. Huguely posted bond following his arrest on November 15, 2008.
Somebody had to know he was incarcerated. He had a public defender in that case so the question is– Who posted it and how was the fact he was off campus for a few days prior to the Thanksgiving break missed by his coaches?
At the time of this writing, the Virginia Commonwealth has issued an order sealing the search warrants in this case retroactively.
While the justification of that request by Charlottesville Police has not been released, it is an unusual move in a case that has not even seen its first bond hearing or an indictment.
Could it mean that Huguely is connected to the murder of Morgan Harrington?
Virginia State Police, who maintains jurisdiction in the Harrington case is emphatic it is not.
..”It was a Lacrosse player who discovered the purse. However, there is no evidence to indicate any connection between Morgan or the Love homicide. .. There is no connection between these two homicides, so I am not going to even entertain the additional questions. We are not identifying the individual who found the purse…” Corrine Geller, PR Manager VSP to blinkoncrime.com
Morgan’s purse was located by an unidentified male lacrosse player on the way to boarding the bus to an exhibition match in Annapolis, MD.
We have a player accused of first degree murder that by his own statements has had violent encounters with others he has not remembered.
We have players with land connections to the area of North Garden as well an individual who has personally preformed site survey work on Blandemar and Anchorage Farm.
Have all the Lacrosse players been questioned about the circumstances of finding the posession of a missing and murdered woman who was last seen on the UVA campus?
The cases may be may be unrelated.
The Harrington’s buried their daughter Morgan.
The Love family is burying their daughter Yeardley.
Isn’t it time for a little disclosure as to whether or not these lingering questions have been asked and answered?
Yeardley Love, will receive her Bachelor’s Degree in Political Science with a minor in Spanish posthumously with her class from the University of Virginia.
Love’s family and friends begin receiving those wishing to pay their respects today where she will also be laid to rest tomorrow, in Maryland.
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Happy Mother’s Day to all moms everywhere!
Went back to the BOC article regarding Separating Fact of Fiction Part 1.
Interesting post by Chad in light of the recent murder of Yeardley.
I just have to say, that George took her computer which contains ??? (proof of threats???) SEEMS similar to Morgan’s camera missing.
George taking clothing (shirt, socks) SEEMS similar to Morgan’s socks missing and shirt missing – till it was “found” on display.
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2.chad says:
November 22, 2009 at 1:52 pm
Thanks Momof3 and observer.
I know most of you have some theories out there on this case. I would like to share my opinion of a possible theory, and allow me to explain below. I do understand that It is common that LE, as in most of these types of cases, do run muliple “parallel investgative venues and/or suspects, as I’m sure they are in this case, meaning that they are not focusing on (1) particular theory so to speak, but all possible scenarios.
Also I have done a little reading on the internet based on your posting the suggested “6 hats of thinking, and “lateral thinking”, by Dr. Edward de Bono. Thank you for sharing. Interesting stuff!
I know that this is a very distasteful, disheartning and a uncomfortable topic for all of us. However, this is a unfortunate probabilty in this case, and does deserve merit in the realm of possibilities. I mean, in no way any disrespect to the Harrington family, or any readers out there reading this post. This is reality. An old axiom in Psychology is “Past behavior is the best predictor for future behavior”.
Understanding the perpertrator mind what makes them tick…., and the way that their mind is “wired”, is paramount to working a case like this. There have been interviews with serial killers by investigators, psychatrists, LE……to try to understand their minds, and how they think. This data is obviously helpful to help solve future serial cases, and for us all to understand the serial killer.
B- Teapartypatriot is for sure not really one and is most likely the opposite, trying to stir the pot and make tea party patriots look uneducated and unintelligent. I know your site isn’t political, but these trolls are doing this a lot on blogs as directed by the O Administration because they are truly threatened by the rapidly growing movement. I LOVE Scaredmonkeys, but this blogger was most likely told to come here to retaliate since you guys are connected. The statements teapartypatriot makes are so sloppily intentional, they are trying so hard to write as if they are what they say they aren’t, and it is painfully obvious in the literary sense. Nice try, tea! On another, more positive note, Happy Mother’s Day, B, and to the other moms who read or contribute here! I so appreciate all of you! Have a great day!
Happy Mothers Day —-
To – Curiousgeorge
Amen to your previous post about teapartydippy.
To – lee
Lots of people make posts on here and we don’t always respond to what they said — doesn’t mean anything — don’t get bent out of shape. You are doing the same thing you accuse others of doing. Find peace within yourself, friend.
Wow, Lee, just wow.
It’s Mothers’ Day Weekend, for God’s sake. I think most of us are lurking and posting as we’re able, but I literally could not be busier this weekend. My children right now are waiting on me to come back to the breakfast in bed that they fixed me (I had to make the coffee, and while it brewed, I stepped over to my laptop for an update).
In fact, Lee, although I did not take time to say so, I read Casteen’s letter not once, but twice. And, in fact, I know his family and like them all. In fact, I think he has been a good president in most cases. I’ve stated my feelings about his leadership before; my sole complaint has been with regards to women’s safety.
This last week has, as I’ve also said, completely gutted me. I do not want to believe all of this can be true, but sadly I fear it is. I know that President Casteen feels “gutted” as well, and in a way I cannot fathom.
I have affection for him, despite his flaws, and indeed I forwarded the letter you posted here to my own family, knowing they would appreciate it.
Would that I had taken time to give you a warm fuzzy so you knew your post was appreciated. I had no idea you needed one so badly.
My goodness.
Happy Mothers’ Day.
Well said acho, and Happy Mother’ Day to all of you Mothers, bio or other.
Happy Mom’s Day to the Dad’s I know that play that role as well.
B
O/T
Justice,
An extra Happy Mothers’ Day to you.
You have been on my mind. You are SO doing right by your kid, and I want to applaud you and wish you the very best in your efforts to find him the help he needs. He has no idea, but he is so lucky you are his.
One of my most beloved quotes:
“A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary.” – Dorothy Canfield Fisher
Happy Mothers Day Everyone!
Blink, I think what MsL meant by “loose lips sink ships” was that s/he feels that very few people, if any, beyond the BG know what happened that night to Morgan because the more people that were either involved in the crime or know about it, the more likely the BG(s) is/are to eventually be caught. Reread MsL’s statement and I think you might agree.
MsL also defends the rest of the team from false accusations. I can understand and appreciate that sentiment. But these team mates were probably closer to GH than family. College athletes spend allllll of their time with each other– at my university, they take special homework/assistance classes, practice, travel to games, eat, party and live together, and date within their own circle. If I ever had an athlete in one of my classes, I had at least 2 others in the same class. The lacrosse players that lived on my dorm floor my freshman year actually moved all 4 of their beds into one room and created a “lounge” in the other bedroom. I can’t imagine 4 lacross players sleeping (and sexing) in one TINY room (20′x10′). Talk about bonding.
And talking about bonding, the swim team would have a beginning of the year party where each male and female swimmer would be tied to a team mate of the opposite sex. I was told that they were expected to get drunk and hook up with each other (the girl who was tied to my gay friend was disgusted… or disappointed… that she was paired with someone who wasn’t attracted to women). The swim team also strips each freshman male swimmer of his swim suit and then throws it in the diving pool so that he has to either run or swim naked, get out of the water, climb the high dive naked, and retrieve his suit in front of the rest of the team– men and women. Who said hazing wasn’t alive and well???…. Oh, sorry, I guess that’s bonding, not hazing.
Yes, the rest of them are innocent until proven guilty, but I think our discussion is meant to turn a bright light on them– knowing that they know GH better than anyone else– and hope that our intense gaze will cause someone to share information before we find it ourselves.
And finally, I don’t know what the solution is. I do think that these coaches need to be held accountable for accepting, overlooking, or covering up the bad behavior of these athletes. Unfortunately, it doesn’t surprise me that the coaches (especially at big universities with winning teams) don’t. If they jeopardize a game or a season by disciplining a student by limiting game time, etc. then the coach faces repercussions him/herself (from Athletic Dept., parents, team members, administration, student body). No one wants to go to a school with a losing team– then they’d all be losers, duh. And then they’d have nothing to celebrate after the game by drinking until they pass out. The program might suffer, athletes might go elsewhere, and prospective students (and their tuition, alumni dues, and parents’ donations) might be lost. If the season suffers because of disciplinary actions then the coach could even be fired. But then we have the dilemma that if a school fired a coach, it wouldn’t be easy to find another top-notch coach for their highly ranked team, and the guy would probably be snatched up by a competing university anyway.
Let’s face it… this is an industry. If college was only about getting educated, then there wouldn’t be a need for athletic teams at all. The teams create school spirit and a drinking/party culture (check out the statistical correlation between successful sports teams and the college’s ranking as a “party school”). As with any industry— shout out to heath care and insurance!– it is going to be very difficult to reform. Especially when you have to fight against people who prefer to move backward– shout out to tea party idiot! I guess we need to put in place a system of penalties– financial, since that seems to be the main motivation of this group…keeping their “hard earned” money lining their own pockets. Perhaps coaches, athletic departments and universities should each be fined when team members aren’t properly penalized for their indescretions off the field. Just like the NBA or NHL can fine and suspend players for their bad behavior, maybe the NCAA or another organization needs to be given this power.
TO: M. You said:
“Right on, Sally Jenkins:
from today’s WaPo -
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/05/07/AR2010050704895.html
“The truth is, women can’t do anything about this problem. Men are the only ones who can change it — by taking responsibility for their locker room culture, and the behavior and language of their teammates. Nothing will change until the biggest stars in the clubhouse are mortally offended, until their grief and remorse over an assault trumps their solidarity.”
“I think, however, women can do something: they can stop worshipping the jock culture,stop demeaning themselves into thinking that their status is somehow enhanced by whom they date, stop enduring the routine insults associated with the locker room culture toward women, stop dating these men. Period. And most of all, speak up and with authority and don’t stop speaking up if they are witness to abuse.”
Can I get an amen?
TO: juliemooly: You stated:
“Despite the weird coincidence of a lacrosse player finding Morgan’s purse on October 18th, I doubt George Huguely had anything to do with Morgan’s death, even though he is a batterer who escalates when drunk. He left Yeardly’s body where it lay; he left a bloody, messy crime scene, even though he had the forethought to hide her computer. If he turns out to be the individual who killed Morgan, I would guess he had some serious help in covering it up and in taking Morgan to Anchorage Farm. I don’t know that I believe that is probable. I hope this ill wind stirs up some facts.
Locals, we will have to check on Morgan’s memorial bridge tomorrow after the wind dies down.”
Agreed completely, and I’ll be happy to check in on the memorial today, as well.
TO: MsL: You said:
“For now, all of what is being said about other UVa lacross team members and the coach, is speculation. Speculation is not fact and I don’t believe is grounds for conviction in any court of law. If it should the proven that there is other team involvement or cover-up in Yearley’s death, those involved should be arrested or expelled. If it should be proven that the coach knew George Huguely was a danger to Ms. Love or any other person, then he should be fired. Before speculating and suggesting punishment or firing, let’s hear some proof. Remember, Ms. Love thought enough of the members of both the men’s and women’s lacrosse teams that she wouldn’t file a police report. Such a report would have done no harm to the women’s team. If she felt that members of the men’s team or the coach were covering for or protecting this man who was apparently causing her to fear for her safety, why would she have any concern about disrupting their winning season? Sadly, Mr. Huguely was more of a threat than she realized. If there is proof that members of administration knew that this young man was a danger to Ms. Love or other students, the University’s Board of Visitors should take a serious look at finding replacements. Before speculating, let’s hear some proof. The majority of students and faculty at this University and most colleges across this country never make headlines because they are at school doing what they are suppose to be doing, getting an education or providing the opportunity for an education. To judge the quality of a school and its entire student body by the actions of a few is grossly unfair.
As for Morgan, there were at least 8,000 people at the concert that night. Some were probably students, some were locals, and many other attendees were from out of town. It’s possible, maybe even probable, that a local is responsible. It’s possible a student was involved. For now we do not know. To suggest that the school should be shut down until her killer is found is just plain ridiculous. Can anyone seriously believe the entire student body is withholding information about Morgan’s disappearance and murder? I doubt very seriously that there are multiple people who know what happened to her. Maybe more than one, maybe even more than two. We always hear there’s safety in numbers. In the case of a secret such as murder, there is a real danger in numbers. To add another cliche, loose lips sink ships.”
One word, MsL:
Precisely.
B: I’d like to offer some of what I hope will be clarification in response to your question to MsL, re, her reference above to loose lips. [My intent is not to speak for MsL, as she can speak well enough for herself.] I think her last reference to “loose lips” was intended to mean that if there were actually more than one or two people who were knowledgeable and complicit in Morgan’s murder, then the chances would increase exponentially for someone to “slip” and have offered up information (willingly or unwittingly) about Morgan’s murder by now. [I expressed a similar sentiment in one of my very earliest posts on Morgan’s murder.]
So, the “safety in numbers” that MsL refers to in the prior sentence applies to certain things, but the opposite is true when discussing multiple perpetrators or conspirators in crime, especially one as horrific as sweet Morgan’s murder.
RE: UVA: I disagree, B, inasmuch as I do believe that many people in the community and around the country are indeed vilifying UVA. I am of firm belief that a long, hard look needs to be taken at how all colleges and universities–including UVA–address issues of domestic violence. [I have years ago personally taken UVA to task on reporting of sexual assaults on grounds.] To pillory UVA in this instance, however, and to somehow lay blame for dear Yeardley Love’s death at the feet of UVA administration is to unintentionally deflect the focus from where it needs to be: Hugueley’s reprehensible behavior and his gross and demonstrated inability to manage his rage within.
I am in complete agreement, however, and underscore the sentiments of others who are outraged at the manner in which our society in general–not just higher education–idolize superior athletes–including those who behave badly. [The list is long and not illustrious; two names come quickly to mind: Vick and Tyson.] Because an individual is blessed with a God-given talent on the field or on the court does not imply that s/he should get a “bye” when it comes to matters of civility and acceptable behavior.
Finally, to Gil Harrington and Sharon Donnelly (Yeardley Love’s mother): My heart aches and breaks for you both today. Please know that you are in the thoughts and prayers of many people on this special and poignant day . May the wings of angels–your sweet daughters, Morgan and Yeardley–lift you up.
“Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.” – Eskimo proverb.
First to all mother’s Happy Mother’s Day. Because I get angry when I hear blanket generalizations applied to our town and UVa does not mean that I am insensitive to what Yeardley’s and Morgan’s mothers must be feeling today. As I hold my little ones near, I hope I will be able to do so for all of my life, with them always being safe from harm. I wish the same for all mothers and their children, everyday of the year.
As to my comment about loose lips. I had just posted immediately before that I doubted that there were multiple (any more than 2 or 3, horrible to think about, but a possibility) individuals with knowledge about Morgan’s death. It’s just my opinion, but if there are multiple people, whether involved or only with knowledge of the events of October 18th, someone would have let something slip. The more people who know a secret, the more opportunity for that knowledge not to remain secret. In other words, the perpetrator’s ship (secret) would have been sunk (revealed) by now. I come from a family with a Navy background, maybe the saying does not mean as much to others.
MsL- I cannot say it I attended UVA that I would not take this less personally, thanks for clearing up what you meant and your solid with me.
B
Correction-meant October 17th.
I’m sorry, I do seem to always have additional thoughts I wish I had added. The TeaPartyPatriot is anything but. I don’t affiliate myself with any political movement, guess I am an independent who makes my mind up based on individual issues. I believe he/she is someone who just likes to create controversy and has no real conviction of their words. The best to be done with someone of his/her ilk is to ignore.
Thank you Observer, I read your comment after offering my own explanation to “loose lips…..” you hit my meaning dead on.
Again, Happy Mother’s Day to all. There are so many people in this world who never give birth, but in the truest sense of the word, are mothers. This day honors all of you as well women with biological claim to the title.
snipped from B’s response, May 8 @ 9:15 p.m.:
“Respectfully MsL- Coach disciplined Huguely for beating the snot out of a team mate….”
Blink: Can you share what the discipline consisted of? He played in the following game, so it wasn’t having to sit out.
Thanks,
b-d
All I know is that it was discussed at practice in front of everyone, both guys never mentioned it being over a girl, and it happened more than once, with more than one player.
B
HAPPY MOTHER”S DAY Blink and all my fellow Blink Mother’s!!
Enjoy your day!
Well, we don’t really know whose clothing was taken from gh’s room, but since they took his (presumably blood stained) entry carpet, bath rug, and shower curtain, i’m thinking the socks and shorts and tee belong to loverboy, too.
Again, a couple of additional thoughts, and I won’t be concerned if this post never appears. Blink has a duty today far and above this site, being a Mom. My own kids are demanding my attention and rightfully so. I just want to say that I did not attend UVa. My only connection is being a local and a football, basketball and baseball fan. Guess that makes me a townie. Even though I am a die-hard fan, I do not believe sports should EVER be the primary concern of a college and sports stars do not deserve respect and idolization just because of athletic ability.I can’t imagine UVa without sports, but the primary purpose should always be education of the student body. There have been some locally who are of the opinion that UVa will never have a top-notched football and basketball team with current academic standards. My opinion, so what! Most college athletes will never go on to be professionals. Educate them well, produce well-rounded respectful, productive citizens who will be successful in a field other than sports.
Enough from me for the day, happy times to all!
A very special Mother’s Day to you Blink. I’m also thinking of all the other Mother’s here….warm wishes to ALL of you!!
My thoughts are with Gil Harrington today….Gil, may your heart be filled with special memories of Morgan today. I hope these memories bring you lots of smiles. Morgan treasured the wonderful Mother you are and she is with you today. I believe that with all my heart.
From one Mother to another…Happy Mother’s Day Gil.
{{{{Gil}}}} hugs from me to you
smiles too
George is not and never was a member of DKE. The end.
Did he pledge?
Are you looking to make claim that he never was because he never lifted from probationary status?
Come on.
We will have to agree to disagree.
B
About the President (Casteen) and the Coaches/Profs: I have have worked at one Division III and two Division I Universities. The organizational structure of the academic world is a tangled weave of political, academic and economic issues. Coaches are pressured or specifically under the direction of the school’s Athletic Director’s Office, who in turn is pressured/directed by the University President and finally he/she is guided by the demands of the school’s Board of Visitors.
Universities are economically under pressure just like any other business. It is to their advantage to have “out of state” students…more money for tuition as well as room & board. etc. In addition, schools that represent well in the NCAA tournaments are rewarded financially. Recruiting the best players often depends on the balance of the school’s budget. Getting the best players cost a lot…phone calls, travel/scouting to home towns, hours of watching tape…it all adds up. Oh, and having a few assistant coaches to pay who do the bulk of the recruiting. It’s an expensive biz not to mention maintaining the buildings/premises for sporting events.
The school from the top down frowns on scandal as it deters interest in enrolling at there college. Scandal = less money. Coaches feel the pressure to handle as much “in-house” as they can because they understand that coaches get fired very easily. I’m not defending any of this but perhaps it explains why they are “lax” around disciplining the athletes…the keeping of many of whom equate to $$$$ and the fulfillment of much of the school’s income.
“at there college” should have been “at their college”…doggone it!
Happy Mothers Day to all Moms!! We truly are blessed with the greatest gift of all – our children. My heart aches for the mothers of both of these beautiful women every day but especially today. God Bless.
Blink,
I haven’t been following this particular thread so my apologies if this info has already been posted..If anyone is familiar with my posts, I post things not necessarily directly related in hopes that either 1; a commonality is found, or 2; it spurs a closer look by others and something else is discovered in the process. So FWIW..
On 5/20/08 GWH had a civil court date in Charlottesville District Court for some sort of warrant in debt that was brought forth by CBS RENTALS LLC. The result was dismissal. GWH’s co defendants are listed as AG and K Cl-(also a UVA Lacrosse Player).
There was also a court date of 11/13/08 in Albemarle County General District brought forth by THE RECTOR AND VISITORS OF THE UNIVERSITY OF VIRGINIA A CORP T/A UNIVERSITY OF VIRGINIA in which GWH was the only defendant. This was also dismissed.
I would imagine whatever debts that were outstanding were ultimately paid/agreed upon on prior to court or the day of.
I’m only speculating the following:
Since there’s a report of GWH assaulting a fellow Lacrosse player over purportedly walking YL home from a bar and kissing her, I wonder if(redacted) was that fellow teammate/friend? One has to wonder if the reason for the debt due to non payment of rent has to do with perhaps one or more of the trio of friends ending their friendship, moving out/parting ways and blaming one another for responsibility of whatever was owed, if and that’s a big IF this is what happened between these three. By the way, KC and AG were listed as DKE brothers. KC has a twin brother who is also a DKE member and fellow Lacrosse teammate too.
I redacted the direct name, but I would like to say there were actual 7 defendants in the case your referencing, the site only reflects two, I had to contact the court hourse to get the others.
It was a house rental and it was dismissed because the debt was satisfied.
B
#49: bluewillow says:
May 9, 2010 at 4:02 am
You have a great way with words, and extremely helpful comments! TY so much
And thank you all on BOC for letting me take up space about my own problems on Yeardly’s story without yelling at me. Not giving GH a break, but I do think it helps to know how he got to this point. I often wonder in dealing with my own son, if this is how it all gets started and parents just give in, and up
Happy Mother’s day all. Should we have a million mother’s march on Washington to stop the Violence!
Justice, you are doing a yeoman’s job trying to keep your son from ending up in a tragedy. Keep at it! And thanks for not turning a blind eye or wishing it away.
uva says:
May 9, 2010 at 11:34 am
George is not and never was a member of DKE. The end.
There were a lot of kids who pledged my Fraternity that I can say ARE NOT Brothers. However, that doesn’t change the fact that they wore pledge shirts, pledge pins, and learned the ins and outs of our rituals and history for 12 weeks before being black balled. Just because he is not and never was a DKE doesn’t mean he didn’t spend time pledging. Are you saying he was never a pledge?
Hey Blink:
First off Happy Mothers day to yourself and all the other Mothers on the board. Second, sorry if this has been addressed but I’m a little behind in reading – did GH’s parents or Galiher & Huguely make any sizeable donations to UVa or to the Lax team recently? Let’s say after the incident in Lexington?
Happy Mother’s day Blink and friends! Wishing you a blissful day filled with love, family and wild flowers in vases <3
TO: MsL: You said:
“Again, Happy Mother’s Day to all. There are so many people in this world who never give birth, but in the truest sense of the word, are mothers. This day honors all of you as well women with biological claim to the title.”
As a God-mom of several kiddies (and remembering certain of my 1,200+ former students with whom I’m still in contact after 30+ yrs.)…but with no biological kiddies to claim as my own…I say to you with puddling eyes:
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.
WRT to college athletics, you go on to say MsL:
“I do not believe sports should EVER be the primary concern of a college and sports stars do not deserve respect and idolization just because of athletic ability….the primary purpose should always be education of the student body. There have been some locally who are of the opinion that UVa will never have a top-notched football and basketball team with current academic standards. My opinion SO WHAT!…EDUCATE THEM WELL, PRODUCE WELL-ROUNDED, RESPECTFUL, PRODUCTIVE CITIZENS…”
[All caps mine (Observer) because I'd like to shout this from the rooftops.] Well-said, MsL!
RE: Morgan’s ROCKS: I received another pick-up notice in the post office box so will retrieve the package and post about here afterward to let the donor know it arrived.
Happy Mother’s Day Blink and all of BOC. I am also sending an extra prayer for Gil and Yeardley’s mother today.
Acho, thank you for responding to Lee and for speaking for all of us Mom’s and our responsibilities on Mother’s Day.(part of my present today, is being able to have a few “alone” minutes to write this, thanks to my children for being so thoughtful)
Lee, We all have had times of wondering whether or not our contributions are welcomed and worthwhile. Let me assure you that they are. I read your post, and appreciated it. Don’t stop posting- we welcome your insights, even when noone responds directly.
GH’s lawyers will spread the blame around. They will put the University on trial. They will put GH’s teammates and coaches on trial. They will put Lacrosse on trial. They will put his past roommates on trial and DKE, whether or not he was a “true” member or not. They will put LE on trial. GH’s lawyers will put his family on trial, his past teachers on trial and they will most assuredly, put Yeardley and her whole life on trial. Afterall, this is the only defense GH’s lawyers will have. They must spread the blame around,in order to lesson the blame that GH carries.
Thanks to Blink, we are now aware of previous incidents of violence. How many more are we unaware of that were forgotten? Thanks to Blink, we know Yeardley didn’t come forward, in part, because she didn’t want to punish her school and teammates because of GH’s behavior.
Yeardley should have never been put in that position, to choose between her safety and her love of school, friends, and Lacrosse. She was sadly, in this position more than once.
My grandma always said- when bad behavior rears its ugly head, you have to nip it in the bud.-
When did GH’s bad behavior begin? Perhaps, if the team were seriously disciplined for alcohol offenses, resulting in GH and others being suspended or removed from the team, Yeardley would still be alive.
Perhaps, if the charges against GH weren’t dismissed or lessened, he would have received his due punishment then, in Florida, or in regards to his resisting arrest charge.
In Memory of Ginny, wrote of a family friend being bullied and her mother saying- “Try to ignore it” We are constantly giving our children mixed messages, when dealing with such problems. “Don’t tattle” “Learn to stick up for yourself” “Ignore it” A bully exhibits the same behaviors as an abuser, such as stalking.
A bully uses violence or threats of violence, a bully tries to ostracize- isolate-terrorize ect, all in hopes of gaining control and power. Perhaps GH’s behavior started early on, and he was simply a bully while growing up, or maybe he was the victim of being bullied, by his schoolmates or an overbearing father ect. We need to learn to nip this kind of behavior in the bud.
My point is, I am sure that GH has a past, and I am sure that we will all hear about how the blame needs to be shared. When in fact, it is GH’s choices, his and his alone, that ultimately led to Yeardley’s murder. But I do believe Yeardley’s death need not be in vain, as there is much to learn, regarding educating ourselves, our children, our teachers, and our schools on how to deal with inappropriate behaviors such as bullying and violence inorder to nip it in the bud.
Justice, I commend you for seeking outside help for your child. In memory, I commend you for speaking up-
Bullying is a sign of bigger problems. If left unchecked, it can lead to domestic violence, or such tragedies as Columbine or what happened to Phoebe Prince.
http://tinyurl.com/yc9jf96
http://www.focusas.com/Bullying.html
Justice — hugs from one mom to another. I understand. You’re an inspiration.
Thinking of all you moms on this Mother’s Day. For those of you missing children or your own mothers, my heart goes out to you.
Thank you again, Blink, for all you do.
For our mothers, who have given us life and love, that we may show them reverence and love,
we pray to the Lord . . .
For mothers who have lost a child through death, that their faith may give them hope, and their family and friends support and console them,
we pray to the Lord . . .
For women, though without children of their own, who like mothers have nurtured and cared for us,
we pray to the Lord . . .
For mothers, who have been unable to be a source of strength, who have not responded to their children and have not sustained their families,
we pray to the Lord . . .
Loving God, bless women so they may be strengthened and become wise. Let the example of their faith and love shine forth. Grant that we, their sons and daughters, may honor them always with a spirit of profound respect. Grant this through Christ our Lord. Amen and Amen.
Happy Mother’s Day to all of us mothers who want justice for Morgan, Yeardley, and their families.
Mothers are very powerful people. We can make this world safer for our daughters.
Peace.
One week ago, Yeardley was playing golf with her friends and partying with them afterwards, so close to playing in a lacrosse championship and graduation. One week ago, GHV, who hadn’t learned his lesson from all his other altercations and run-ins with the law, once again got drunk, & maybe drugged, and acted once again on his bullying impulses, and no one stopped him or warned her, and this time there were fatal consequences.
Seven months ago, Morgan disappeared from a concert; less than 4 months ago her body was found. There were warning signs that Morgan was in trouble, and anger that JPJ didn’t take heed of a girl with blood on her chin, trying to get back inside but refused reentry.
Last week – and for months beforehand – people didn’t take heed that there were neon signs flashing: DANGER DANGER DANGER.
Why? Is it because there is so much denial and so many excuses and assumptions, that murder and destruction happen only to “other people” not “us”? A belief among his peers, born in denial, that GH, even with his history demonstrating the contrary, certainly wouldn’t *really* hurt someone?
Yeardley woke up Sunday a week ago with no idea that it was her last day alive, that that night she would die in pain and terror. Friends, acquaintances, teammates of both – they knew GH was a loose cannon, but were they in such denial that they didn’t see that this big man, out of control, could take them out of the game, permanently?
My daughter, when I caution her about safety, has a belief common to her age group – that she can run faster, yell louder and cause a bad guy pain; that she is invincible. That she can recognize a “bad guy”. No, dear heart, you can’t and you aren’t.
Anniversaries are hard. One week ago, at the time I write this, Yeardley was alive and GH not a murderer. Tonight, she is buried, and he’s in jail, and friends and families are desperately wishing they could turn back time.
These are just my musings this Mother’s Day evening as I think of the mothers for whom this day is causing pain, not joy. I still believe that people are basically good, but not all people and not all the time. I know that I walk around with blinders on, too. Take care, everyone; be safe.
Happy Mother’s Day everyone! Blink I hope you especially got some time off with your family so they may enjoy the wonderful woman/wife/Mom that you are! I wish I could go back and redo some things with my Mom. You know us kids know everything when we are young but I do treasure every moment spent with her now. I have the best presents ever I gotta tell ya’ll. My boys (Son and Husband) are happy, healthy and a sheer joy to be with everyday. What more could a Mom ask for? I’m so Blessed!
Great post M.!! Exactly,the blinders must come off.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there and a special prayer for Yeardley’s mom. I just found out that she lost her husband to cancer when Yeardley was in high school. If ever a young woman needed a father, this was it.
Perhaps I have been more than a little extreme in calling for a complete shutdown of UVA. Howver, sometimes organizations get so out of wack that the threat of such a happening is sufficient to get some changes made.
I previously posted about the University of Texas in 1962. My cousin who sent all three of his children to that school was a part of the commission that did the investigation and made the recommendations for change. On more than one occasion, he an I had a conversation about the things they were finding and how to best solve the problem. They found people who were unqualified to teach, administration personnel who were stealing and covering up bad behavior, coaches who closed their eyes to bad behavior and other things like alcohol and dope. People were fired, some prosecuted for theft and new top level administrators were hired.
They also discovered, that despite the large revenues generated by the football team and of course the smaller ones by the other sports, that the taxpayer was still covering the shortfall. In a nutshell, at least at this university, sports did not pay its way as is usually claimed by the Athletic Department. In essence, sports is only a PR or advertising machine for the school.
Someone posted that until the athletes come to have responsibily for good behavior and in particular regarding how they treat womem that things will not change. I agree completely.
The entitlement mentality that is pumped into these young men beginning in middle school by the coaches and principals is really the root cause of the problem. All it takes is for someone like this Hugley character to destroy the credability of any program.
Therefore, all coaches should be required to do background checks on their players and if there is any doubt regarding a particular athlete, they should issue a pass and not employe them. Yes, college sports is a business. The fact that the school is the employer is little known by the general public.
Girls and young women can do their part by trying not to tie themselves to an athlete in order to have status. In addition, when these people misbehave, women need to shun them and let them know why.
Ladies, unless you have a problem with your own self esteem, statistics show that most of the time women are much better students than men and should give themselves much more credit for being valuable people.
Stick together and protect one another. Bad guys cannot operate unless they can isolate someone.
Parents need to instill in boys beginning as early as three that girls and women deserve respect and they should protect them,not attack them. If this does not happen by the age of six or seven, then they may not ever understand the need for this behavior.
HokieHi says:
May 9, 2010 at 2:28 pm
Hey Blink:
Did GH’s parents or Galiher & Huguely make any sizeable donations to UVa or to the Lax team recently? Let’s say after the incident in Lexington?
RE: HokieHi says:
May 9, 2010 at 2:28 pm
Hey Blink:
-Did GH’s parents or Galiher & Huguely make any sizeable donations to UVa or to the Lax team recently? Let’s say after the incident in Lexington?
RE:
His grandparents, Epe and George W. Huguely III, are listed among the school’s $5,000-to-$9,999 donors.
HokieHi says:
May 9, 2010 at 2:28 pm
RE: “In our ongoing efforts to control expenses and prioritize internal resources, we have elected not to produce our annual report this year. The 2008-09 Financial Report is available to you by clicking on the link below. Our desire is to bring back the full report in the future, most likely in an online format that would take advantage of print and video technologies” -UVA
http://www.virginiasports.com/fls/17800/Financial.pdf?DB_OEM_ID=17800
There is an interesting article about the families of all of the unsolved murder victims in the area, http://fredericksburg.com/News/FLS/2010/052010/05092010/544435/index_html?page=5
This quote jumped out at me:
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When state police agents assured Sadie Showalter and her husband they would find their daughter’s killer and keep them abreast of developments, she believed them.
Years later, after learning they hadn’t tested obvious suspects, that trust is shattered.
“I felt very betrayed by the state police,” she said. “They just had us believing they were doing everything they could be doing to solve our case.
“What a disappointment when you found out they weren’t.”
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Dear BOC moms,
I thought of you all with deep admiration today… as I frantically shopped, madly prepped (at the last-minute), and (hair-askew/flour across-the-face/mixing bowl cradled in my arm) beckoned my own mom in for an ambitious-but-poorly-planned meal. It will suffice to say that that my effort (and that of my musician fiancee, who was handed a guitar and hissed at to “entertain them” as I narrowly avoided burning chicken and overcooking risotto) was well-appreciated (the sangria and acoustic serenade helped), and it was all done for her with love fueled by more respect and appreciation than any Mother’s Day prior.
I *clink*ed my mom today for keeping me safe, instilling independence, and teaching me how to keep myself safe for when I no longer listened to her. That’s not to say one’s fate is exclusively tied to their free will – that’s where forces outside of our control, such as the young, male degenerates responsible for the outrage on this board, yank the proverbial rug out; but, because of the frank musings and powerful actions of Gil and B and skyler and fish and Hummingbird and Chad and Mom3.0 and acho and all of you other amazingly aware, passionate, fed-up-with-a-predator-laden-society moms, my deep appreciation for Mama Bears has truly been elevated …
You are All an ongoing Inspiration. TY, M!
*clink*
Do the the UVA and VTech chapters of Delta Kappa Epsilon ever intermingle? Do they ever have inter-college events or parties?
Someone posted on the other thread at 5:44pm on May 8 under the name “mary” and it was not me.
TO: M: Stellar (5/9, 9:01pm) post. Absolutely stellar, as was (predictably) Mom3.0′s earlier 2:54pm post. And Sister, thank you for sharing that lovely prayer in your 7:13pm prayer.
Today I woke up with renewed strength, commitment, and hope that together: we CAN:
* make a difference.
* move Morgan’s investigation ahead.
* maintain a quiet vigil as we anxiously await justice for dear Yeardley Love.
* work to do whatever possible, in our own small way, to remember these lovely young women.
* ensure that such tragedies are not repeated.
In this case, there is indeed power in numbers. As Margaret Mead said, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed people can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
On a related note, it will be a somber, poignant moment for Yeardley’s friends, for the University of Virginia, but most importantly, for Sharon Donnelly and Lexie Love when Yeardley’s degree is conferred posthumously on May 23, 2010. I plan to be there to bear witness to Yeardley’s memory.
Watch this. What would you do?
http://abcnews.go.com/WhatWouldYouDo/video/man-lures-drunken-girl-10589695
Thank you Blink and all dear posters for your persistence.
It’s a roll up your sleeves monday.I watch,learn and pray faithfully in regards to the good works in this gathering of concered hearts and minds.R
As I have seen a friend’s life go to the dogs because of alcohol and unresolved personal issues, I would just like to add a few thoughts on what one could or should do if confronted with such a situation.
For a coach or a teacher there a various ways on how to proceed, which usually involves professional help and assessment. This is the easy part of the story. But what about friends? What do you do if you really like someone, he keeps telling you he is ok, but in fact he is spiraling out of control?
My advice is to keep at a certain distance once you notice your friend is really in trouble. Believe any rumours you hear, even if they seem absurd at first. It can in fact be true. In my case there were rumours around town that he was cheating on his wife, and that he was getting drunk in – well let’s call it places of ill repute in less respectable parts of the town. It seemed most out of character, but it was in fact true.
Trust your instincts. If there is the slightest indication of violence, stop talking to him. (He might only mention it indirectly – in my case he once told me that he helped a girl who was being assaulted at a bus stop, and beat the thug up. Even though this sounded very extreme, I believed him. Truth was, he got into an argument in a bar.)
Just don’t have any contact. It is not your job to sort this mess out. He has to make the decision to go into rehab, and change his life. He has to see that he would actually lose friends through his conduct, and that his behaviour would not be tolerated. At some point, he will run into difficulties explaining why he doesn’t have any contact with x anymore, and why he had a completely new circle of friends, people who hardly know him.
Alcohol can destroy a person. It is particularly dangerous, because it is legal, and in men drinking is still regarded as a sign of being a real guy. There is a difference between having a drink once in a while, and being an alcoholic. Alcoholics are addicts, they can’t stop drinking. They are no longer the person you used to know.
With regards to GH, I just don’t see why nobody called the police on him. He was violent in public, and various people who knew him personally saw that. If this happens, it is actually very easy to intervene, by getting the authorities involved. For his team, he was a liability, and they could have ordered drug tests, which would have given them a reason to act.
Yeardley’s life could have been saved. IF GH is also responsible for Morgan’s life being taken as well, that would have been 2 lifes that could have been saved.
I now must ask all who turned their head, ignored the neon blinking signs, allowed him to behave like this and get away with it time and time again with no consquences – Was HE worth it? Didn’t Yeardley and Morgan deserve better than this? They deserved to live.
Bearlyhere says:
May 10, 2010 at 7:45 am
Watch this. What would you do?
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Great video, the bar patron in the green shirt made me teary.
Sister, Thank you for sharing your prayer with us. I plan to reread it every morning. Please share more with us as you can.
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Radiogirl: YEP–roll up the sleeves and back to work.
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Observer: It is so apparent that you were meant to be important in the lives of so many young men and women. UVA is blessed to have you. Change begins in our own backyards.
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Blink: I hope you feel refreshed and revived and loved.
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Bestest to Fish and Sky : )